When you can tell your story and it doesn’t make you cry, that’s when you know you’ve healed. What a powerful thought. I know this was absolutely true for me during a few times of my life!
I remember back when my biological mother and I had our falling out…it was devastating for me. I was about to begin high school and learned some things about her that I was shocked to hear. During this time, and due to these things, my parents were divorcing. I was always the peace keeper of the family…I stayed out of trouble, did my best every day, and I tried to be sure that both of my parents knew that I loved them equally. But, my mom and I were close prior to this period in our lives. So, to know that her actions caused our family to split apart was very hard. In addition, I experienced some additional hurt and heartache during this time from her that caused me to sever my ties with her…and it took a long time to heal myself from that. But, I knew, when I could share the story with others and not cry, I was on my way back to normal!
When I divorced my husband after 20 years of being together, I was devastated once again. We had built our life together 1,000 miles from family and when the split happened, I was so lost and alone. Our friends made choices and I did not get to keep all of the people in my inner circle close to me…and then I had to step up and support my daughter, who was also in pain from our split. Again, when I could share the story with others and NOT cry, I knew I was going to be ok.
We all go through hard times in life…and I truly believe…we must take the time to grieve those hard things that have happened! We cannot just believe that if we continue to move forward without taking the time to heal. It will linger for years. I am not a crier, but this may include some tears! And that is ok! Once you can share that story and not cry…not feel pain…then, you have conquered it and can move on! Take the time! Take care of you! You are definitely worth it! Until next time! Cheri ❤️